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Stop wishing for a better figure, and start loving yourself first

Hello my name is Amal Al Khaburi! I am 44 years old current weight 94 kg finally heading to a healthy weight. Which started 2  years ago, where I weighed 396 LBS/over 180++ kgs.

You see I have never been “the skinny girl” in fact I have spent my whole life overweight. I have been the butt of many jokes, and in general I have used food to comfort myself. I have been through many trials in my 44 years that haven’t helped my weight situation. In 2013 it all changed. I gave birth to my perfect little boy, Noah, weigh was 352 LBS/160 kg give or take. He came into my life exactly when I needed him, as I was going through so much in my personal life. 2017 was when it all clicked. I saw him developing the same eating habits I had. I fought too hard to have him, and here I was allowing him to develop in the same manner as myself.

It’s amazing isn’t it that we cannot see yourself even when you looking at yourself in the mirror every single day. I honestly do believe I was in denial, and ignoring all the signs, like cloths we not becoming any smaller, I could not walk much, needed help in wearing my cloths so many I can’t even remember.

In 2017, I was fearful that if something didn’t change, I wouldn’t be around to see all of my Noah’s milestones. They say hindsight is 20/20, but if I could go back and talk to my overweight self this is what I would say to her and all those who are fighting this battle. I would also tell myself to take all the energy I was putting into self-loathing and all the negativity about myself and invest in the time for myself, turning my self into a better version of me, since I am the one who matters!

“Stop wishing for a better figure, and start loving yourself first”

I spent so much time wishing I had the perfect figure and trying to be that perfect woman/girl that you hear about, but they don’t exist. You know the one I am talking about, the one:

  • who never has had weight problems
  • that girl who can wear that dress and not have lumps and bumps
  • make the dress sway and flow too

and guess what I have come to discover that she doesn’t exist and that “perfect” girl has her own issues, sad but true, it is just that they aren’t as visible as being overweight.

I Embrace all the things that make me! I love myself so much even my Fab Mr. AS ❤️, asks me how can I love him and Noah so much, if I love myself so much first?

My reply is “if I didn’t love myself as I do now, then I would not be able to love them so much and always be grateful for all that I have. And that they would be miserable around me”

I don’t have a perfect life, I have my own struggles in raising our little boy and working on a beautiful marriage is not a walk in the park always, all relationships have their ups and downs. But I can promise you this, you will FLOURISH, as the conqueror of your own battle, only if you put all your energies into being the best version of yourself ❤️

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April 2013
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2016 and October 2019

 

Battle of the Bulge

Creating My Own Stepping Stones

the Battle of the bulge is not easy: we become moody, edgy, irritable, touchy and so much more. So its easy to give up and fall of the wagon. That is why a support group is necessary.
So I have been Lucky that I have my own little support group with me, its been a bumpy ride but we are getting there.
So when I started my weight loss journey and decided to join the GYM my mom laughed as did the immediate family who are close to me. You see I had done this so many times no one thought I would manage to pull it off.
Don’t get me wrong, they were tired of my joining the GYM and not going through and they all thought “ok another failed attempt” But this time what no one realized was that I have had blessings sent to me (everything happens for a reason)

BEFOREBEFORE

TODAYTODAY

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Support Group Necessity – Reach Out

the Battle of the bulge is not easy:  we become moody, edgy, irritable, touchy and so much more. So its easy to give up and fall of the wagon. That is why a support group is necessary.

So I have been Lucky that I have my own little support group with me, its been a bumpy ride but we are getting there.

So when I started my weight loss journey and decided to join the GYM my mom laughed as did the immediate family who are close to me. You see I had done this so many times  no one thought I would manage to pull it off.

Don’t get me wrong, they were tired of my joining the GYM and not going through and they all thought “ok another failed attempt” But this time what no one realized was that I have had blessings sent to me (everything happens for a reason) :

  • My Son Noah – my Miracle (A gift from God);

  • A Girl Called Nadia Khan from London

    • there is so much I can say and yet it would not be enough (she is another beautiful soul that has walked the walk with me & still is)

    • she joined the GYM with me

    • she came with me relentlessly for months & due to busy life schedules we try to work out together when possible

    • stood by me through it all – a backbone

  • another called Christin from Berlin – but she’s more Omani now 🙂

    • a force to reckon with as well

    • my rock & backbone

    • another beautiful soul who has walked the walk & still is

  • and sitting in Budapest is my Sister Anna Maria who lives on the 4th floor, without a lift (you can imagine how many times I cursed her coz I had walk up 94 steps and down 94 steps) 😉

    • my globe-trotter

    • someone who has stood by me from across the continents

    • another soul sent to me, a force to be reckoned with and my pillars of strength

the above was how it started, along the way the circle increased

  • my Coaches

  • Mum & Dad, they started to believe (they are my parents always stood by me, but as far as loosing weight was concerned it was hard for them to believe)

  • Princess Ash & Khali (uncle) Shez from Manchester – my cousins

  • Hilal Al Habsi – Someone who Believes & true to his word

  • Ahmed Al Omairi – training us now a friend & brother

  • Eva Stanley Jones – Making it Happen, like a breath of Fresh Air

  • the gyms

  • my online supporters

  • those who only say they support – talk is cheap 

There are those that would like to remain anonymous & those that breezed in and out of my life, bringing or teaching us something positive in life.

Everyone needs support something or someone to fall back on … as the shrinking arab feel free to contact me for that, I know how it feels:

  • email: info@thechrinkingarab.com

  • instagram: theshrinkingarab

“Creating My Own Stepping Stones” 

Why My Weakness is Temporary

In my earlier post I mentioned if this weakness is over… well it has to be !!! I am made of steel and “I am bringing sexy back at a sexy pace”

 

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this was at my peak beyond 180++ Kg’s

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“I will be the change”

Peanut Butter & BR

So I have been away for a few weeks now, and honestly its just been a bit tough, so much has happened in the last 10 months. Hence the peanut butter and BR

“I HAVE NOT STOPPED MY GYM”

  • biggest change by self choice was that I became a Single Mom after 10 years – EMBRACING SINGLEHOOD.
  • in less than 8 months starting before single mommyhood hit me was the weight loss 84kg in total with just diet, gym and  determination nothing else (this started before the separation and then divorce)
  • dealing with the unwanted physical change of weight loss – the excess and saggy skin 
  • starting my professional and personal life from scratch – coz I was working for the ex husband 
  • decided that the ex husband and I need to be friends for the sake of our son, which led to an amicable divorce, we are friends. 🙂 – its hard, but has to be done! seen too many damaged kids from nasty splits!! my son is more important that any one or anything.
  • my parents became became a bit ill (just age) during different times, am an only child.
  • as of this weekend i have officially become socially in incapacitated 🙂
  • I have had a few week days where peanut butter and baskin and robins were my best friends is that over?? not sure!

“BRINGING SEXY BACK”